On Saturday Night, after our young adult service, I needed to get gas in my car if I expected to get home. While filling up on gas, my ears and heart were assaulted by the continuous lyric hook that went like this: “Shake That Ass Hoe” over and over again.
Know, before I continue I live in the inner city and have for a long time. I really enjoy rap music, the beats and some of the raw real lyrics that many of these guys spit is refreshing. Yet, here is a perfect example of a supremely messed up picture of what a man and a woman should look like in society.
As this car pulled up next to me in the gas station blaring rap music, my head started to bob to the beat…because it was a good beat. I couldn’t discern the lyrics until he opened his door and left his window down as he pumped gas. The song was not lyrically amazing, in fact the song was pretty pointless, except to brainwash the people listening it into believing that women were no good except for sexual favors. The hook that I shared earlier was 3/4 of the entire song and each time I heard it, it crushed me inside.
Why would it crush me? Well, young men grow up listening to this music (not rap per se, but demeaning lyrically) and they hear it over and over again believing that they deserve a woman who will shake it for them.
Young women hear this music blasting over and over again and they begin to believe the message that they are nothing but hoes and are alive for no other reason but to shake their ass and get naked in order to sleep with these men. They see their life’s purpose as fulfilling this requirement and will seek to fulfill it as soon as someone who appears to love them comes along.
This is not a race issue, so don’t hear me wrong when I say these men or these women. By that wording, I mean the men and women who listen to this music and begin to allow it to bore into their hearts and souls. I’ve lived on the north side of Pittsburgh too long to think it is simply a race issue… because it is a society issue.
As I sat to think about this song and its message, I realized it is not even a rap issue. Our society has become more and more sexualized and even though we have women’s rights in the front of our minds, many women succumb to this belief about themselves. Whether it’s from the music, the television, the computer, the magazines or sometimes cultic religions they believe they are simply here to sexually please men. They may not say it this way but they certainly live it this way.
Young men also think this way about women and they see women as meat on a market rather than a princess to be cherished and loved. This then ruins the success of relationships, which then causes many young men and women to wonder what’s wrong with their relationships, or worse yet…what’s wrong with them.
Breaking down the message in the song as well not only degrades the women but the en listening to the song as well. It teaches them that they are only good enough to get a hoe. It screams to them that once they find their “hoe” they are good. These men need true love from a princess, not fake sexual love from a hoe, but they are trapped with lyric hooks like this. This hook teaches the men listening to it that real men are men who get their hoes and make em shake it. That the definition of real manhood is at its core dominance and sexual pleasure.
That message leads to weaker men than ever. They are cowardly men, weak men and not real men but rather stuck in boyhood. Any boy can love a woman sexually. It takes a real man to love til it hurts, commit until death, raise children and sacrifice self in order to ensure your woman feels like the princess she is.
Our current society through its songs, shows, movies, blogs, pictures, magazines and the like have been making weaker men by the years, so men…let’s STOP listening to it and walk away from boyhood. Women, you deserve a real man because you are so much more than a physical being. If you got a “Shake your ass hoe” type man, kick his sorry butt to the curb and seek a man who loves Jesus, and knows what real manhood is about!